Trust

In December, my family welcomed the decoration of the new house. In the process of decoration, I was faced with the Centralized Purchase of all kinds of decorative materials. In this process, I had to contact with all kinds of dealers. I found that I didn’t even know myself. I usually ask several stores of the same type of materials before deciding which store to buy. In fact, compared with the prices of different stores, there is generally little difference, but I dare not make a decision easily. After all, I don’t trust the store owner. I have to compare several more stores with each material I buy, just for peace of mind, which is a bit embarrassing, I always feel it is a big sin to be fooled by the seller. One of the shopkeeper told me this sentence: I gave you all my courage, and you still felt bitter, which made me see my ugly soul unconsciously. In fact, businessmen also want to live. It is natural for them to make money, just like we get wages at work, but we always feel that they cheat us. The more they explained, the stronger our suspicion was. During this period, I deeply felt that the most basic sense of trust between people was gone, and only the naked money transaction relationship existed. Perhaps for thousands of years, we have gradually lost the most basic relationship trust between people in the environment of no traitors and no business. In fact, the trust we lost is definitely not limited to those with businessmen, but also includes colleagues, leaders, even our parents and spouses. I feel very scared when thinking of it, because we are actually playing such a role. I remembered how my parents taught me not to be close to strangers. Now I also teach my children with the same idea. We feel that the people around us are all cheaters. They are all people who want to take advantage of us. In the workplace, I always stick to the idea of doing things steadfastly, and there is no suspicion with my colleagues. It can be said that I am a simple-minded person. Nowadays, disharmonious voices among some colleagues can always be heard. This reminds me of an unpleasant thing that happened to me in last July. Since I had a conflict with the department leaders. I used to attribute things to my lack of endurance and impatience. In fact, the most fundamental reason is the distrust of each other, because of the distrust of leaders, I tried my best to explain that under the circumstance that the leader couldn’t accept it, I was totally disappointed and my mood was out of control. If we believed each other’s words at that time, we wouldn’t have been entangled all the time and ended up with farce, which also brought a very negative impact on the department. Both buyers and sellers lack trust. The simple business relationship is mixed with too many other things, which leads to double the transaction time and cost, making each other exhausted; Colleagues lack trust, the work cannot be well handed over and cooperated; The lack of trust between leaders and subordinates causes disunity to the department, and the assigned work tasks cannot be well implemented; The lack of trust between children and parents, the family affection of flesh and blood gradually evolved into an excuse for complaining; The lack of trust between couples, the marriage is facing breakdown, and the family is facing dissolution, which affects the stability of the society. In 2013, China Youth Daily published the social mentality blue book “China Social Mentality Research Report 2012-2013” published by the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences. The report said that China’s trust fell below the bottom line of 60 points, and seven adults did not believe in strangers. Spring elimination snow

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