Wheel

In the cold morning, the Dawn had not penetrated through the night, and the street lamp had gone out. The flashing lights were the car lights and early vendors. I rode alone through the cold morning wind, watching the withered branches on the roadside trees shaking, seeing the continuous leaves and grass on the roadside, and my thoughts flying again on the long way to work. In 2014, there were still so many disappointments, so many sentiments, so many regrets and so many hopes! In 2014, I changed my five-year-old living condition and left that small place called Jingzhen. There are many wonderful memories in Jingzhen, friends who get along with each other day and night, busy days, disappearing tile houses, the way home and the years of growing up. I am very pleased with this choice, which continues my tradition of changing a place for three to five years, enriches my young experience and adds many wonderful memories to me. Memories, what is not lacking in 2014 is memories. When I think of my school days, those hard years ferment with time, becoming more and more Chun; When I think of my former students, the place called New Century and Yaohua is full of happiness; When I think of Beijing, the hurried life of Xinghua, Qingdao, Yantai and Shijiazhuang has carved footprints in the bottom of my heart and missed countless scenery; When I think of the reunion after a long separation, I sigh with emotion that the years are in a hurry, there is still a pity of not meeting for a long time. Regret is always indispensable. There are fewer hometowns and more concerns from parents; There are more apartments and more silence for one person; The contribution to welfare is close, and there are more dreams and disappointments. The hardship of life has never been alleviated. The grand blueprint and the shallow income complement each other. Looking around, it is full of hope. Hope, winter is coming, will spring be far away? Hope is the colleagues who grew up in hard times, and also the high-rise buildings within reach; It is the bright and bright spring flowers, and also the leisure driving in the wilderness; It is the passionate contribution, it is also the scenery pursued by thousands of miles. Scenery, flowers and flowers all the way, fallen leaves all the way, cold wind all the way, hazy moonlight and light all the way. The wheels moved around for hundreds of days in 2014, hoping that the way home would not be long any more. Like (prose editor: Jiangnan wind) the snow in spring Spring elimination snow, multi-the yao nian, unspoken. Reading from afar, it is just above that snowfield. The snow is really beautiful, after all it is spring… Waiting Waiting is a kind of persistence, sticking to a certain belief and never giving up. Maybe because of a certain commitment, or because of a certain… Be good at listening to different voices and opinions On October 6th, I published a travel essay: “beautiful autumn scenery”, which was obtained by many literary websites… Read The Bridges of Madison County “When the white moth spreads its wings, you can come to me at any time”. I think, if I am a man, be accepted… From today on, I want to be happy I read “the biography of Hulan River” long time ago, and I remember that I was really in a heavy mood for a long time. Which characters caused me… Sick time I sneezed one after another these days. I said someone was reading me and others said I was sick. Finally, the doctor also said I was…

Summer non-

I listened to Wen Lan’s summer wind on the roof, but even there was no wind on the roof. The weather was still hot and airtight, and several insects under the window were constantly blowing, it is time to write the book of songs for Liangliang. Is it about Bodhisattva or Xijiangyue? Will your face close to my chest, hear the heartbeat and see the starlight in summer. I would like to say that those who dress up in literature and art can find out the origin of a simple style. That is the real skill. They care about the external packaging all day long, wear this and that, use this and that, it is purely a joke of buying and returning pearls. The confidence in the heart and the literary grace in the heart are not too lazy to write the song “The wind of summer” which can be packaged. If it were me, it still needs time to prepare for the profound literary grace that should be written, but it is not impossible. Those insects in summer are singing happily now, just a prelude to sadness. When autumn comes, they can’t jump high any more. Alas, unfortunately, what insects sing is a kind of sadness, but it is not necessarily so sad. Time is circulating. At this time next year, there will be a new generation of insects singing softly. I wrote “no wind in summer”, no wind in summer, and insects have worries, history and it. Like (prose editor: Jiangnan wind) the snow in spring Spring elimination snow, multi-the yao nian, unspoken. Reading from afar, it is just above that snowfield. The snow is really beautiful, after all it is spring… Waiting Waiting is a kind of persistence, sticking to a certain belief and never giving up. Maybe because of a certain commitment, or because of a certain… Be good at listening to different voices and opinions On October 6th, I published a travel essay: “beautiful autumn scenery”, which was obtained by many literary websites… Read The Bridges of Madison County “When the white moth spreads its wings, you can come to me at any time”. I think, if I am a man, be accepted… From today on, I want to be happy I read “the biography of Hulan River” long time ago, and I remember that I was really in a heavy mood for a long time. Which characters caused me… Sick time I sneezed one after another these days. I said someone was reading me and others said I was sick. Finally, the doctor also said I was…

Embrace

Because I work in other places, I always come and go home in a hurry every time. It’s almost eight years old. The days of gathering less and leaving more are getting used to it. There is no way. In order to live, we have to travel between the two places. Every time I leave, as long as the child is present, I will hug him symbolically. Sometimes he was also encouraged to say a few words, which were nothing but studying hard, listening to his mother’s words and so on. I remember that when he just went to other places, he was only in the fourth grade of primary school. Now he is already a senior two student, whose size is even stronger than mine. I think children may not understand the true meaning of embracing separately. There are expectations, family affection and guilt. After all, I don’t spend much time with my children at ordinary times, and I don’t let my children feel the father’s love they deserve. In learning, there are even fewer concerns in life. Impression, few years present only at he 1 parent conference, the rest are wife to of, that his teacher suspected single-parent families. I really feel that my father is too unqualified. Of course, I will also find ways to do something for my child. Every time I go back, I will buy several books for him and write several letters to him. I remember that I once bought him a German Braun cartoon “father and son”, and my son loved it very much and fondle admiringly. Even so, compared with the fathers of other children, I admit that I haven’t done enough, and a simple hug can’t make up for anything, but I still want to express my feelings through it. Ruthless is not necessarily a real hero. How can a poor son not be a husband? Maybe. Fortunately, the child is very obedient and sensible, and he has been studying hard. Every time he came back, he liked to communicate with me. We played chess, ran, watched movies, and was also willing to share his fun at school with me, which made me more or less happy. Several times, in order to drive early, the child was still asleep. I walked to the bed and watched him sleep soundly. I couldn’t help patting him gently. I’m leaving, son. The child sat up with a sleepy face, and I leaned down to say goodbye to him. Then, gently bring it to the door. On the way to the station, my wife said to me, “You two are still very sticky, right? If you are the best at home, you can play chess, play ball games and run with your son every day. Yes, people are in the arena, and they can’t help themselves. Every time you come back soon, your son always talks about you. After listening, I was speechless. Maybe someone will laugh at me, saying that I am acting or affectation. Actually, it is not necessarily true. Some people say that there are thousands of kinds of love in the world, but only the heart of loving the son is the purest. Lu Xun had an article named How to be a father. During his son’s growing up, he once mentioned: What I think now is just love.. Da Vinci once said: Father’s love can sacrifice everything of himself, including his own life. After reading, it makes people aftertaste. Oh, open your arms and hug the one you love. After all, life is short, only love is eternal! 2015.10.18 like (prose editor: Jiangnan wind) the snow in spring Spring elimination snow, multi-the yao nian, unspoken. Reading from afar, it is just above that snowfield. The snow is really beautiful, after all it is spring… Waiting Waiting is a kind of persistence, sticking to a certain belief and never giving up. Maybe because of a certain commitment, or because of a certain… Be good at listening to different voices and opinions On October 6th, I published a travel essay: “beautiful autumn scenery”, which was obtained by many literary websites… Read The Bridges of Madison County “When the white moth spreads its wings, you can come to me at any time”. I think, if I am a man, be accepted… From today on, I want to be happy I read “the biography of Hulan River” long time ago, and I remember that I was really in a heavy mood for a long time. Which characters caused me… Sick time I sneezed one after another these days. I said someone was reading me and others said I was sick. Finally, the doctor also said I was…

In road

Time passed by at your fingertips. You left that sad city A that day. You told yourself that no matter you were working or feeling, you fell down. It didn’t matter. Everything could start from scratch. You said, you believe that the girl who loves laughing will not be too unlucky. Only I know that you are crushed too deep by the gear of fate, and things will turn against each other. The other side of sadness is happiness, so you have been trying hard to bloom like a sunflower. So you went to B city, and you said, changing a city can change a mood. You know? Sometimes I especially admire your freedom. You discarded the life experience, emotional chains and work experience in your backpack, starting from scratch in a strange city. You said, the best change is to start from scratch, and don’t carry too much at the beginning. From now on, you just want to put simple happiness on your shoulders. You said that after you attended the job fair that day, you went to a nearby C Company for an interview, which was a job that you had no concept at all. Just because you had a good communication with the department head during the interview, you thought he was upright and lovely, and this job was challenging for yourself, so you decided to stay and have a try. I laughed at your double behavior, but I didn’t realize that my heart envied you very much and could make a choice for myself. You said, what makes you confused is that since you joined Enterprise C, all your sadness, inferiority, fear and negative energy have evaporated in a flash, you have really become a simple girl who loves laughing. I feel happy for you, because you can only appear in dreams like this. On the first day of your employment, you met little D in the same position. You said he was a handsome and clean boy, and he was always bored with you, I am willing to accompany you to do every little thing. He will be the first person who cares about you when you ask for leave. He will get up early to buy you Hangzhou steamed buns. He is also the one you want to eat watermelon at midnight, and he will rush out of the dormitory to buy for you immediately. You said, you like to be with him, simple and happy. It’s just that you two are not suitable to be lovers. You said that you were afraid of hurting him. E is a person who has little achievements in work. In E’s words, his technology is one of the best in this industry. You said, some people will have a feeling of deja have met for the first time. The scene of knowing E is not romantic, but it is particularly profound. You always think that he has a story to tell, and you are willing to be the listener. He invited you to climb mountains, watch movies, sing songs and occasionally insert one or two of his stories. You are always moved by his frown and sad eyes when he tells stories. You want to hug him and give him warmth. He often smiles like a child in front of you. Maybe a relationship can bring a person back to its original form and encourage your impulse. You said that your mood would change with his every move, full of cloudy and sunny, and your life would detour to the original starting point. But no matter what, you don’t want to escape again. It is enough to have one life. The man who has been on the road, are you okay? Fortunately, it is just not as good as I expected. If I had love, it would be better for me to live simply and happily! Like (prose editor: drops of ink become wounds) the snow in spring Spring elimination snow, multi-the yao nian, unspoken. Reading from afar, it is just above that snowfield. The snow is really beautiful, after all it is spring… Waiting Waiting is a kind of persistence, sticking to a certain belief and never giving up. Maybe because of a certain commitment, or because of a certain… Be good at listening to different voices and opinions On October 6th, I published a travel essay: “beautiful autumn scenery”, which was obtained by many literary websites… Read The Bridges of Madison County “When the white moth spreads its wings, you can come to me at any time”. I think, if I am a man, be accepted… From today on, I want to be happy I read “the biography of Hulan River” long time ago, and I remember that I was really in a heavy mood for a long time. Which characters caused me… Sick time I sneezed one after another these days. I said someone was reading me and others said I was sick. Finally, the doctor also said I was…

<Xie

You said: You are like a woman! When I was young, I came here like a leaf. I won a sincere smile with hard work. I have seen flowers and flowers, and I have seen the falling clouds. I am not the daughter’s call to you. You are reluctant to stay away from your colleagues and take photos with you. You said: even the turtle raised by a small child in the jar is missing! Standing in the warm sunshine of winter, after the last post of this day, you said: let me do another cleaning! The setting sun warms the family affection. Goodbye. Beautiful. Looking forward to the day when we can really meet at the top of Mount Emei! Like (prose editor: drops of ink become wounds) the snow in spring Spring elimination snow, multi-the yao nian, unspoken. Reading from afar, it is just above that snowfield. The snow is really beautiful, after all it is spring… Waiting Waiting is a kind of persistence, sticking to a certain belief and never giving up. Maybe because of a certain commitment, or because of a certain… Be good at listening to different voices and opinions On October 6th, I published a travel essay: “beautiful autumn scenery”, which was obtained by many literary websites… Read The Bridges of Madison County “When the white moth spreads its wings, you can come to me at any time”. I think, if I am a man, be accepted… From today on, I want to be happy I read “the biography of Hulan River” long time ago, and I remember that I was really in a heavy mood for a long time. Which characters caused me… Sick time I sneezed one after another these days. I said someone was reading me and others said I was sick. Finally, the doctor also said I was…

Today

Qu Bo called and invited me to visit his paired child Dongyang. Did I call him? Is he at home? Qu Bo said, no one answered the phone, why don’t you call one for me? The phone was over, and the hoarse voice of Dongyang’s grandmother came. I asked her if she was at home and told her that we would arrive later. Ten minutes later, when we arrived at Yong’an Street, the phone called over there and asked if we had come. She was waiting at home. There was a heavy rain this morning. It was drizzling in the sky every day. The cement pavement in the countryside was washed clean by rainwater. After getting off the bus, the three tile houses covered by green trees and rows of osmanthus trees, the flock of chickens scattered when we saw us, and the vegetable garden surrounded by them were so familiar and novel. Dongyang and grandma have already welcomed our voices. When we entered the house, Grandma Dongyang began to criticize Qu Bo. Why didn’t she go to see her yesterday? Qu Bo said with grievance why grandma Dongyang didn’t answer his phone. I put the gift I brought to Dongyang in the next room, and then I knew that Dongyang’s grandfather was asleep. Qu Bo and I called Dongyang, and he hid behind grandma shyly. It looks a little taller than last year. Qu Bo felt uncomfortable during the day and night because of his backache. Yesterday, she received a dozen inexplicable calls from Dongyang’s grandmother, asking him to go to the West Bus Station. She wanted to find him. When our volunteer federation sent someone to come there, her grandmother went back again. Qu Bo was not at ease, so today he endured the pain and took time to come. My grandma and I chatted around. It was nothing more than whether Dongyang went to preschool. I asked Dongyang about what grandma was looking for Qu Bo yesterday during chatting far away from school. Grandma asked Qu Bo to find someone to send Dongyang away, but she didn’t take care of him. She was so tired that Qu Bo and I looked at each other speechless, because Qu Bo guessed whether Dongyang grandma wanted to send Dongyang to others on the way. We assumed various situations along the way and came to the conclusion that Dongyang grandma had no money to use. When we were speechless, grandma told her revolutionary history with joy. In fact, Qu Bo and I knew something about their family more or less. The grandpa who slept in the room heard that Grandma was going to send Dongyang away, and shouted at the old woman on the bed. They scolded each other with one word and one word. Grandma Dongyang was very excited at first, but this was even worse, with a snot and a tear, spitting everywhere. Little Dongyang looked at Grandma in panic with red eyes. Although Qu Bo and I have seen the scene of the quarrel between the parents, the parents are obviously very angry today, especially grandpa, who seldom lost his temper before. I walked to my grandpa’s bed and persuaded him to calm down and pay attention to his body. Grandpa talked to me about my wife. I closed the door gently, and Grandpa Ren poured out the unhappiness that had been suppressed for a long time. Dongyang’s father, because of his mental disorder, wandered outside all the year round. My grandfather is over seventy years old, and my mother-in-law is more than ten years younger than him. In ordinary times, except for taking Dongyang, he always has food to open his mouth and clothes to stretch out his hand. The government has a relief fund every month. He grows some, life is also good. However, he was sick these days and didn’t cook. Grandma Dongyang, who was used to eating, became unhappy and complained everywhere. Grandma threatened him and sent Dongyang away after grandpa said a few words, we all know that Dongyang is Grandpa’s lifeblood. It was said that the old woman was going to send Dongyang away. He was already ill, so anxious that he didn’t even eat food. I advise Grandpa, your mother-in-law to spoil her like this. Grandpa said yes, I have been accommodating her. Then I said that my mother-in-law was just angry to send Dongyang away, Why do you take it seriously? How can I say if I want to send it? Dongyang is not a gift! Let me say again, Grandpa, you should take good care of yourself. Dongyang is still young, and he needs you. Grandma Dongyang, who cares so much, needs you more. Grandpa silence. But I can see that Grandpa is relieved. No one will rob his precious grandson. The outside is also calm, maybe Grandma said she was tired. When I came out of my grandpa’s room, I saw a pair of geese walking leisurely outside in the lawn, so I said as I walked: goose. Qu Bo also stood up to see the goose, standing under the roof of Dongyang’s house. We talked about the goose, and grandma also agreed to talk about it. I can’t see that I was excited just now. We also talked about the vegetables in the vegetable garden. I said who planted them, so many and so good. Grandma said they were planted by Grandpa. I said yes, how diligent. We talked about rows of trees again. I said who planted them. So many trees were so good. Grandma said they were planted by Grandpa. I said yes, what a beautiful heartless chat my eyes told me that my grandma had already laughed. Qu Bo and I also left. On the way, we were silent first, and then sighed. Qu Bo strongly agreed to give Dongyang to a good family, saying that only in that way can Dongyang have a future. I opposition. I said that if Dongyang was sent away, it would kill grandpa Dongyang. Besides, who could cause us to shake our heads reluctantly because of grandma Dongyang’s situation? Qu Bo and I agreed to spare as much time as possible, I often visit Dongyang. Like (prose editor: drops of ink become wounds) the snow in spring Spring elimination snow, multi-the yao nian, unspoken. Reading from afar, it is just above that snowfield. The snow is really beautiful, after all it is spring… Waiting Waiting is a kind of persistence, sticking to a certain belief and never giving up. Maybe because of a certain commitment, or because of a certain… Be good at listening to different voices and opinions On October 6th, I published a travel essay: “beautiful autumn scenery”, which was obtained by many literary websites… Read The Bridges of Madison County “When the white moth spreads its wings, you can come to me at any time”. I think, if I am a man, be accepted… From today on, I want to be happy I read “the biography of Hulan River” long time ago, and I remember that I was really in a heavy mood for a long time. Which characters caused me… Sick time I sneezed one after another these days. I said someone was reading me and others said I was sick. Finally, the doctor also said I was…

A

Sometimes life will make a big joke for you, and give you a surprise! In life, sometimes we cannot control ourselves, so we can only accept and cannot escape. The sun rises from east to west and falls from West is everlasting. We only have to accept it and there is no other way. The sun will not rise and fall for something or someone. We live in this world. Life God has arranged your way out for you. You can’t come to a paradise. We can only bear everything, whether you can afford it or not. Whether it is sunny or rainy; Whether it is calm or sweeping, we can only move forward, not backward! How much a person can bear depends on his perseverance and Spirit: Maybe you have passed and become a hero, maybe you can’t pass the test of God, the cross has become your eternal destination. No matter which choice you choose, it is just the way you bear life. When the spring breeze blows, everything is ready. The grass withstood the hardness of the soil, accumulated thick and thin hair, broke through the bondage of the ground, and ushered in the light; The charming flowers withstood the cold wind, gathered strength, endured the destruction of the chill, and began to fight for beauty. We? Ready? My friend said that it was painful to lose love. One person can relieve his worries and get drunk. The next day is like this, and the third day is like this. I’ll see you in a month. My friend is high-spirited!! Well, a few days of mourning for lost love is the limit! There are more important people and things in my life. We laugh and. I understand that my friend really let go. After all, we are not young and frivolous, and we will not be depressed all the time for one person or one thing. Autumn, flowers bloom. My friend came again, this time I sent me a wedding invitation. I can only say congratulations to my friends. I don’t know how strong a person’s endurance is. I only know that when facing the jokes of life, I will smile and say to myself: remember, I didn’t lose, just need to work hard, it’s good! There is no paradise, until we can find our own peach tree in our life. Heroes do not belong to us, but we should not have a cross! So we said loudly: life, let the storm come more violently! We won’t be afraid. We will be as brave as Haiyan. Like (prose editor: Jiangnan wind) the snow in spring Spring elimination snow, multi-the yao nian, unspoken. Reading from afar, it is just above that snowfield. The snow is really beautiful, after all it is spring… Waiting Waiting is a kind of persistence, sticking to a certain belief and never giving up. Maybe because of a certain commitment, or because of a certain… Be good at listening to different voices and opinions On October 6th, I published a travel essay: “beautiful autumn scenery”, which was obtained by many literary websites… Read The Bridges of Madison County “When the white moth spreads its wings, you can come to me at any time”. I think, if I am a man, be accepted… From today on, I want to be happy I read “the biography of Hulan River” long time ago, and I remember that I was really in a heavy mood for a long time. Which characters caused me… Sick time I sneezed one after another these days. I said someone was reading me and others said I was sick. Finally, the doctor also said I was…

Twilight province

In my opinion, education is to guide the existing things in students’ souls into something that is not available there. I don’t call it education. I called immune from other. Having seen many explanations and understandings of education from people at all times and in all over the world, I am only fond of the words of Scottish female writer murliersparker. Because of the short time I entered the profession, I was always confused by some common educational phenomena in other teachers’ eyes. For example, how deep is the understanding of education of teachers who shoulder the missions of inheriting culture, influencing life and changing life? I think this kind of depth and breadth of education understanding directly influences and determines his every move in education. In other words, behavior is the external expression of a teacher’s connotation. Just like the autocratic class, what is explicit is a kind of overbearing, overbearing and powerful power, but what is actually explicit is the anxiety, dullness and fear of teachers. I remember that my history teacher was like this when I was in junior high school. There is no king’s rule in the classroom, and one of his sticks is enough to sweep the world. The class was filled with depression and panic everywhere. We were so suffocated that we didn’t even dare to take a breath. We only looked forward to the bell of the class and conveyed a bitter pleading to God: Let’s finish the class! This teacher won the honor of tyrant with autocratic politics, because the history of the class he taught was always the leader that no one could shake in my memory. The tyrant we present is a kind of discontent and provocation of bad words, while the tyrant given by the school is a kind of superior affirmation. This kind of thing which made people laugh and cry, and even some strange things unexpectedly moved terribly from my student age to my teacher age. Although it is far from being as evil as a stick, it has a determination like a fatal heart. When I moved to different classes, I had been searching carefully for all kinds of information from the crack of the door. A kind of reprimand far beyond the teacher standard, a deliberate or unintentional word slander, a Opportunistic violence against violence in my heart began to show a lot of disgusting, even some ferocious face. This is not the teacher in my mind, let alone the education I want. The guru is trying his best to pursue a considerable data performance, comparing a series of indicators that only products can have, but paying no attention to the children’s world. Driven by this kind of competition, many people went to the ideal High School and also went to the ideal university, and then they entered the field that they seemed to want to achieve. It seems that we have to thank this kind of education, because with it, many poor students who originally wanted to stay in the mountains for a lifetime step into city life, because with it, many lonely families once again reignited their rising dreams. However, I am completely hated this kind of education. I spent nearly ten years looking for my lost spiritual home. In my memory, there are countless first achievements, Number One Scholar, and the experience of having a high monthly salary. All of these have not built a barrier to happiness. Most of the time, I am still wandering alone until today, I just figured out a question, what am I looking? Everyone has a space that he doesn’t know at the moment he starts. There are endless unknowns in that space. With the rise of years and rings, that space is slowly hollowed out, then it was put in a lot of things nearby. This space is the spiritual home of a person. The ultimate version of education has created many masters in the field of industry, especially those who earn money and worship money, but it has not created several masters that make The Times and the world admire. The reason is that what these people have learned is only a skill, but they seldom have spiritual realm. It is also the imperfection of this spiritual home that leads to the beginning of empty life. For nearly a hundred years, some people could not understand the word “bitterness and happiness” all the time, so they had to leave quietly with many sentiments and mysteries in the aftermath of the world. What is horrible is the occupation of spiritual homeland by politics, which is certainly not a kind of ultimate horror in my opinion. If politics occupies a person’s spiritual home in the name of belief, then this person can no longer call himself a person, either God or ghost. Yuan Xun of two bombs was the god of pure devotion under this political belief, and Japanese militarism was the evil ghost. However, the spiritual homes of most of us and the most ordinary people are not completely lost or occupied, and occasionally a little bit of remnants will also create some rebellion at the right time. Because only in this way can we find our spiritual home with our original original heart. From the time scale, I am lucky. Because I went back there again. Although there was a lot of dust scattered in the space, I knew that my heart was awakened by him. Spring elimination snow Spring elimination snow, multi-the yao nian, unspoken. Reading from afar, it is just above that snowfield. The snow is really beautiful, after all it is spring… Waiting Waiting is a kind of persistence, sticking to a certain belief and never giving up. Maybe because of a certain commitment, or because of a certain… Be good at listening to different voices and opinions On October 6th, I published a travel essay: “beautiful autumn scenery”, which was obtained by many literary websites… Read The Bridges of Madison County “When the white moth spreads its wings, you can come to me at any time”. I think, if I am a man, be accepted… From today on, I want to be happy I read “the biography of Hulan River” long time ago, and I remember that I was really in a heavy mood for a long time. Which characters caused me… Sick time I sneezed one after another these days. I said someone was reading me and others said I was sick. Finally, the doctor also said I was…

Find self

Chatting with friends, I asked: What do you usually do when you meet people you don’t like? Several girls said neatly: how to do it? Go away! Ignore, automatically block, ignore! The reactions of other girls are different, but they are also quite consistent: I usually look for reasons from myself, and think that I don’t like them because I don’t have enough self-cultivation and can’t understand them. I seemed to see the comments of the first few girls who sniffed at them: no strength, why bother yourself? You think you are God! Later, I left this question to many people one after another. Most of the replies I received would choose to find the reason from myself, and I felt that the effect was good. The explanations given were: I think the reason why you dislike it is that you have not experienced enough. When you have met enough people and things, there is nothing to dislike. If you think that not everyone is well educated like you, it is normal for them to perform like that. After hearing so many self-analysis answers, I really want to ask them: Did you grow up with chicken soup? Since when do we refuse to dislike others? It is normal that people like things and appreciate and dislike people accordingly. On the contrary, everyone is kind-hearted, nodding and smiling to others, which makes people feel horrible. Countless Chicken Soup for the soul are telling us: human beings are omnipotent, and you can’t do it just because you don’t want to do it. But the reality is that there are very few things you can do. People are limited. Only living in a region can be comfortable. Crossing the border, one must bear more. A boy wrote to me to tell me his distress, which was summarized as one sentence: I always felt that I had many mistakes before, but as a result, I felt very self-abased, and everyone did not respect him, therefore, he felt that he had no sense of existence. I asked him why he thought it must be his fault? He answered naturally: isn’t the rule of adult world that everything can find reasons from oneself? If you don’t do well enough, you don’t work hard enough; If you don’t like it, it is because you treat others badly; If you can’t adapt to the society, it is because your personality is not smooth enough. How terrible this explanation is. If it continues like this, he is likely to attribute all the imperfections of this society to himself. It seemed that he was self-abased, but deep in his heart he felt that he was full of strength, so he wanted to undertake and bear. My advice to him is: you can try to offend someone, and you will find that the result is not that bad, and you can bear it, so that you will be yourself slowly and comfortably in the future. He exclaimed: really? Offending people, shouldn’t it be done by bad people? Offending people is not killing people and setting fire, but a behavior that normal people will do. For example, if someone arranges you to do something you don’t like, then you can directly refuse it and see which direction the matter will develop. He thought I threw a bomb into his heart, but in fact, as long as a person lives, how can he not be hated, offended or disliked? Some chicken soup for the soul and the education we have received since childhood are the places where people are harmed. We try to guide everyone to become a perfect person, even if they walk well on the road and are hit by others, parents will also kindly remind their children: why don’t you pay attention to it? Why does he hit you instead of hitting others? This kind of questioning, which could be called a great God, made people speechless, but there was no logic at all. If you really follow this idea, you can finally attribute the problem to yourself. Only when you clearly realize that this premise itself is wrong and it is a strange circle can you not mistake it for granted. Not long ago, a college student fell from a building in the city where I lived, which caused an uproar: The boy’s confession was rejected, and he jumped directly from the third floor and broke into a crushing fracture. Everyone doesn’t understand why the rejection of confession requires suicide. At the same time, some people think from the perspective of girls: The girl who has been confessed may feel sorry for her whole life. Some experts said that the girl should receive some psychological counseling, otherwise, as a subconscious mind, she might often interfere with her. A very important point of psychological counseling is not to blame yourself. You just need to do the part you need to be responsible for. Don’t pay attention to the result and let her understand that this matter has nothing to do with her, don’t listen to people around you. If she agrees, boys won’t jump off buildings and so on. If people have to be related to one thing, they can definitely find the connection point, because people themselves are social, but as a normal person, a person who respects himself, you shouldn’t force yourself to pull this relationship. It is normal to allow yourself to have flaws, to be unable to understand others, and even to be selfish, which is not strange at all. The cruelty of the current society is to regard all the normal as abnormal and the abnormal as the mainstream. My good friend’s younger sister Xiaoqing and a girl named Xiaozhuang are graduate roommates. Because there are only two people in the dormitory, the relationship is particularly good. But gradually, Xiao Qing found that everything was different. Every night, she can receive a text message from Xiaozhuang, such as I want to be with you, I like you, I love you. After several times, Xiaoqing couldn’t stand it any more and asked her: what do you mean by sending text messages? If you are Les, go after other girls. I don’t accept homosexuality. Don’t bother me any more. Xiao Zhuang was sensitive by nature. He cried for a long time after hearing this, and sent a message to Xiao Qing after turning off the lights at night: If you leave me, I will die. Only then did Xiao Qing realize the seriousness of the problem, but she felt more unbearable because of being threatened. After thinking about it over and over again, there was no other trusted person to pour out, so she finally chose to seek help from her sister. Xiaoqing’s elder sister was my good friend. It had been a long time since she told me about it. At that time, Xiaoqing had moved out of the dormitory and Xiaozhuang didn’t die either, alive and well. I asked: How did you convince your sister that Xiaozhuang would not die? She said with some fear: Actually, I was also very afraid that this girl would commit suicide at that time, but I also knew that this matter had nothing to do with my sister. If I let her adapt to her, that God forbid. I had to tell my sister the worst result: even if she committed suicide, it was not forced by US. If you felt that one could not bear it, you would put all the blame on me. She said that this was not the most difficult thing. The most difficult thing was that my younger sister always had a soft heart. She thought it was too cruel to treat Xiaozhuang like this. She could only tell her sister: If you continue to think like this and then do like this, then one day she really committed suicide and you will be the murderer. It is very important to draw a clear line with people and know which responsibilities are your own and which things have nothing to do with yourself. A person without a sense of boundaries, even with kindness, is likely to make a big mistake in the end. It is good to save myself three times a day, but this saving should also include checking whether I have taken too much responsibility. In other words, if you keep looking for reasons on yourself, you overestimate yourself. Like (prose editor: Jiangnan wind) the snow in spring Spring elimination snow, multi-the yao nian, unspoken. Reading from afar, it is just above that snowfield. The snow is really beautiful, after all it is spring… Waiting Waiting is a kind of persistence, sticking to a certain belief and never giving up. Maybe because of a certain commitment, or because of a certain… Be good at listening to different voices and opinions On October 6th, I published a travel essay: “beautiful autumn scenery”, which was obtained by many literary websites… Read The Bridges of Madison County “When the white moth spreads its wings, you can come to me at any time”. I think, if I am a man, be accepted… From today on, I want to be happy I read “the biography of Hulan River” long time ago, and I remember that I was really in a heavy mood for a long time. Which characters caused me… Sick time I sneezed one after another these days. I said someone was reading me and others said I was sick. Finally, the doctor also said I was…

Woman

The clock ticked and time went by. The moon was full and the moon was short. Walking on the road of life, unconsciously, I stepped into the ranks of 40 years old. Looking back suddenly, I can’t help sighing that I am already a middle-aged woman of 40 years old. I am not only confused but also a little incredible. It seems that yesterday, I was still spoiled in front of my mother, I am already 40 years old with a little temper and a little pursed mouth. How can I suddenly work hard? When my daughter stood in front of me and was a little taller than me, I finally no longer doubted that I actually stepped into the ranks of 40-year-old women. Oh, forty years old! What kind of mood should I take to welcome my forty years old? What kind of mentality should I take to face my 40-year-old life? People all say that a woman Twenty is a flower, and a woman Thirty is a bean curd residue, let alone a 40-year-old woman. Maybe every 40-year-old woman has a little bit of self-sorrow and self-sorrow in terms of age and appearance. Perhaps, it is because I am a woman who is very ordinary in both appearance and other aspects. I don’t care much about my old face and the death of youth. Looking back on the 40 years of life, I just want to make a small summary of my life for the first half of my life on the day of my 40th birthday, leaving a little for my life, A unique mark belonging to oneself. When I am too old to walk in the future, when I am too old to look back, I will take it out and slowly recall, slowly chew, and slowly recall my mood at this moment, together with countless yesterday that will never come back, it will be recorded and meaningful! Before the age of 40, we took a life path of growth, study, pursuit, endeavor and struggle. Along the way, I have tasted all kinds of flavors of life, the world is hot and cold, and the human feelings are warm and cold. People and things that could not be accepted before have learned to accept calmly; The sufferings and pains that could not be endured before have learned to bear silently. The original willfulness and persistence, after the polishing of life, smoothed the mind and polished the edges and corners. Looking back on the past, how many hardships and sorrows have been indifferent. The hurdles that I once thought I couldn’t get through had gone with the wind in the corridor of the past which was like a dream. The pains that I once thought I couldn’t bear had been sleeping in the river of history with the change of time. Years will finally make people understand that there is no obstacle that can’t pass in life, only the mood that can’t pass. Therefore, I learned how to face injustice with smile and cope with fate calmly. No longer impatient when encountering things, no longer exaggerated when dealing with things. Before the age of 40, I always hope others can understand myself, especially afraid of being misunderstood by others. Therefore, when something happens, I always like to argue and express my opinions eagerly. Gradually, I have been used to listening first and then speaking. Facing the misunderstanding of others, I have gradually learned to laugh over. I realized a truth that some things need to be explained, because misunderstanding can be solved; While some explanations are redundant, because no matter how many explanations are, they are in vain. Face the misunderstanding calmly, because time will clarify everything. Looking back at the road I have traveled, I always feel that I have been struggling to find a person who can know and understand myself, so I locked myself in my heart knot and trudged for half my life, in the end, I found that it was still myself who could really understand myself. At the age of 40, I finally learned to bury my mind and deal with my emotions, and I won’t expect others to understand myself any more. Although, sometimes I still feel so sad that I can’t get along with myself, I have learned to let time help myself calm down everything. Before the age of 40, I might not know what kind of clothes are suitable for me. I always like to buy clothes very much. Almost every season, I will buy new clothes, and I will also buy some clothes that are not suitable for me. I don’t know when I don’t like shopping anymore. Even if I buy clothes deliberately, I won’t be like before. Even if I can’t see what I like, I have to go home before I go home, pick a dress that you don’t like very much. At the age of forty, I finally learned to choose the clothes that suit me and I like, otherwise I would rather lack than abuse. Just like making friends, before the age of 40, I was always eager to make intimate friends, so I would make friends with everyone, and I would not see if others treat you as a friend. At the age of 40, I have learned to make friends selectively, and make friends with people who share hobbies with me and can treat friends sincerely. Treating people with sincerity and dealing with things honestly is my consistent style and also the principle of dealing with people. At the age of 40, after experiencing the subjects of studying, working, getting married, raising children and so on, I can finally understand the hardship that my parents raised us in those years, and I can finally realize being a parent, there are many difficulties and all kinds of helplessness, and finally I can understand my parents’ good intentions of looking forward to success and success. Facing my children, I put away my bad temper, worn out my patience and dug out my potential. If it were not for my child, I would never know why my parents’ mind was so broad and could tolerate everything of the child; If it were not for my child, I would never know, it turned out that my parents used such broad minds to tolerate my willfulness in those years; If it wasn’t for my children, I would never know that I still had a lot of potential to dig out. Children not only add a lot of fun to me, give me a goal in my life, give me the motivation to move forward, but also give full play to my potential. I put all my parents’ devotion to me into my children. Children are almost the whole of my life. At the age of 40, facing the old age of parents, a feeling called sadness arises spontaneously. Because of life and work, I traveled outside every day. Suddenly one day, I found that my parents’ temples were covered with white frost, and my eyes became wet immediately. It turned out that my parents were old when I only focused on my own career, work and family, and my body began to stoop and my teeth had fallen off, but I unexpectedly had no consciousness. The sense of guilt filled my chest and the sense of shock struck my heart. A sense of powerlessness made me depressed and painful to cry. When the child was older, my parents were old. For the sake of the child, I ignored my parents’ old age, I have wiped my tears secretly with my parents behind my back. I can’t change my life, old age, illness and death. I can only spend more time with my parents and listen to their nagging when my parents are still alive, just like Chen Hong’s “often go home to watch”, parents only hope that their children can spend more time with themselves, and the family can live in peace and harmony. For them, this is happiness. At the age of 40, I understood a lot and looked down upon a lot; At the age of 40, I learned a lot and endured a lot. Forty years old is like a dividing line, dividing life into the first half of life and the latter half of life. The life of the first half of my life was always trudging from one mountain to another; I was always choosing, choosing the road under my feet, the road of life; I was always confused, I don’t know how to walk on the road under my feet, whether to wait or chase; I am always groping, and everything I haven’t experienced has to be done by myself. In the first half of my life, there were always too many uncertainties, too many confusion and too many pursuits. In the latter half of my life, I have been able to see clearly the direction of the road under my feet. Both my career and my family have stepped into a stable zone without much change, there won’t be too many accidents. Peace and stability should be the life you want for the rest of your life, and also the life you want for the rest of your life. I don’t want to be colorful, but to be stable and safe! Although it is already 40 years old, don’t let yourself stop learning, because only continuous learning can inject fresh blood into life; Although it is already 40 years old, however, don’t attribute yourself to the old generation in your heart. If you all acquiesced that you are old in your heart, your mind will be old and your mind will be vicissitudes. Although you are already 40 years old, however, we should also adhere to the principle of treating people with sincerity and doing things with heart. Now that you are already 40 years old, you should accept the fact that your appearance is old, and don’t feel bitter about it because your appearance is old; Now that you are already 40 years old, you should learn to cherish the people around you more and know how to cherish and follow the fate; now that you are already 40 years old, you should always hang your smile on your face, hide your sadness deep in your heart, allow yourself to feel sad and sentimental occasionally, but never allow yourself to immerse yourself in sadness for a long time; Since, at the age of 40, you should be more tolerant to others and always remember to face others’ mistakes with an inclusive heart. Forty years old, looking back at the past thirty or twenty years old, I found that my mood was already different. When I was 50 years old, I looked back at the life feelings recorded today, maybe it will only get your own calm smile. 40-year-old woman, 40-year-old feelings, engraved here, eternal! Like (prose editor: Jiangnan wind) the snow in spring Spring elimination snow, multi-the yao nian, unspoken. Reading from afar, it is just above that snowfield. The snow is really beautiful, after all it is spring… Waiting Waiting is a kind of persistence, sticking to a certain belief and never giving up. Maybe because of a certain commitment, or because of a certain… Be good at listening to different voices and opinions On October 6th, I published a travel essay: “beautiful autumn scenery”, which was obtained by many literary websites… Read The Bridges of Madison County “When the white moth spreads its wings, you can come to me at any time”. I think, if I am a man, be accepted… From today on, I want to be happy I read “the biography of Hulan River” long time ago, and I remember that I was really in a heavy mood for a long time. Which characters caused me… Sick time I sneezed one after another these days. I said someone was reading me and others said I was sick. Finally, the doctor also said I was…