Now

In January of 2014, my wife and I, and of course the old people of both sides, were worried about one thing and looking forward to it. This worried expectation was continued from the only hope several years ago. My wife and I are at the same age. She is five days older than me and has passed the year of establishment, 35 years old. He had been married for seven years, but he had not become a parent. Who did this matter lie on and who could not worry? Before that, it was not because we didn’t want it, but because we hadn’t been pregnant. After the Spring Festival in 2011, with the transfer of my work, this matter was put on the important agenda of my family. After that, the traditional Chinese medicine and Western medicine have been seen one after another. Of course, the traditional Chinese medicine and Western medicine are not less put into the belly, and the daughter-in-law has also eaten the so-called prescriptions such as cock blood, jujube bark, red garlic braid and so; in the past two years, we had caught up with the maternity care policy of the Army. We went to the General Hospital of the military region in Beijing, and we couldn’t remember how many times we had run. Only the back and forth tickets were piled up a little thick. However, the pain was not less, the money was not less, but the wife’s belly still did not move. It is inevitable that our parents worry about ourselves. It was also in January, 2014, lunar December 18 before the Spring Festival, that grandma died of illness. After sending the old man out, he met the cousin who came to the funeral at the gate of the second uncle. She asked about our situation face to face: Is my wife pregnant, Liang? Not yet, my cousin. I responded truthfully, and there was no lack of frustration in my tone. This is what I need in my life! I was shocked when she said this. I knew that this cousin always spoke fiercely. Her prickly words might be heartless, but it really hurt me. Although I felt resentful in my heart, I couldn’t break out. Firstly, she was a relative of the funeral and an elder, so she couldn’t ignore the way of treating guests and respecting the elderly; Secondly, she just sent it to the old man, since then, they started to make troubles in the street. What’s more, they were originally adults. It was also in January of 2014, after the white affair of Grandma, our big family rushed to handle the marriage of our eldest brother two days later. I just sent it to the old man and then held a happy event, which seemed unreasonable at first glance. Things have their own reasons. The wedding date of the elder brother and sister-in-law had already been fixed. According to the custom of the hometown, once the date of the new couple’s gift was confirmed, it was not appropriate to change it, otherwise it was not good. Grandma also died of sudden asthma when she went back to her hometown in Shandong from Tanggu to attend her eldest brother’s wedding. Not long after the Spring Festival in 2012, in Tanggu where my eldest brother worked all the year round, a court sentenced him to divorce his eldest sister-in-law because of the breakdown of his relationship. With the help of an attorney, the eldest brother won the custody of his son Yu Hao without much trouble. The verdict required the woman to pay Yu Hao 300 yuan per month for the living expenses, which were 300 yuan per month, yuhao’s mother has not fulfilled any point so far. Yu Hao, who had been in grade one in Tanggu with his eldest brother, had to transfer to his hometown to be taken care of by his grandparents. From then on, besides expecting their second son to become a father as soon as possible, I am looking forward to their big and small children finding a wife to become a family as soon as possible. Nearly two years after my eldest brother divorced, on the third day after sending it to grandma, my parents’ last wish was finally fulfilled. As for the previous wish, they could only watch after the Lantern Festival in 2014 in the distant expectation. In the general hospital of Beijing Military Region, their daughter-in-law accepted the second test-tube baby embryo transfer operation after three artificial insemination. According to the doctor’s advice, my wife and I went back to the hospital two weeks later to check the results. This time it was successful, and finally it was successful! Maybe it was because of the old saying that everything went wrong. After experiencing many difficulties, my wife and I finally stopped worrying and hesitating, and finally saw the birth care policy of the Army’s free medical treatment, it gives us the long-desired hope. I am grateful to the troops and the country from the bottom of my heart. Time came to the 09:12 on the evening of November 2th, 2014 with my parents’ exhortations and my wife’s care. For others, this moment may be irrelevant and not worth mentioning; But for me and my wife, it is crucial and unforgettable, because it is the moment when our lives can continue! At this moment, our son was born safely, in the fervent expectation of my wife and me, in the forgetful cheers of relatives and friends. Just at this moment, the depression, anxiety, loss, hardship, and other haze-like emotions hidden in my wife and me for a long time seemed to have been expected for a long time, the strong breeze blows away and clears away! I think, my old people should also be in this state of mind at this moment. Finally, they can no longer worry about this, for their son and daughter. During the period of serving the confinement at home, I was busy and full. In the rare leisure time, my pink feet and fleshy mouth naturally appeared in front of me. I couldn’t help sighing: Where Has Time Gone? Isn’t time in front of the child crying and laughing, and just for the ardent expectation of parents? In March of 2015, I have been a father for more than four months. Just as my family and I expected, the little guy was healthy and cute, because he was born in Beijing. My wife and I named him Jingcheng. During the first Spring Festival when I became my father, although I couldn’t stay with my child, what did it matter? What else can I feel unsatisfied if I can become a father as I wish in my forties? From years ago to now, I have been back to the Army for almost two months. Every night before I got into bed and fell asleep, I would look at my son’s photo on the phone and secretly laugh and praise (prose editor: Ke Er) the snow in spring.

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